I had always thought the theme was change. Now I was starting to think that it wasn’t infact the theme; it was the process. Maybe it was happening now; right under my nose. It seemed it was possible to be friends...if that’s what we had become. I wasn’t sure; but I was starting to think that I knew all of these things all along; but I was too scared to admit them. And perhaps change was a process; even if it was a reluctant one to begin with. I had been scared, but now I was starting to get used to it and was willing to try and help it along even. That’s what people do isn’t it? You’re scared of getting involved with the new person after the long mess you call your last relationship; all you need is the right person who has the patience to wait with you. Maybe it was coincidence that Id found someone who had enough patience to deal with me. Is it hard to find that quality? I guess it depends on how much reluctance you feel; it would make sense to correlate reluctance with patience. Together they balance each other out, and thats when it works. All along the way communication is key; which I guess means that you have to find someone who not only has the patience for you, but also has that connection with you. Because the connection would enable you to communicate, and therefore patience would be made easier. So if its easy to find someone with patience, it would mean that its easy to find someone who you have a connection with. But that’s not the case; it’s a long way from the truth. Having said that, is honesty really the best policy? In every couple there must be somethings which are shielded from one half. Maybe because they don’t matter. Theyre white lies, small things which wouldn’t make any difference. On the other hand, maybe theyre kept inside because they mean too much. Its hard to distinguish with some issues. For example the whole being friends with an ex thing; is it relevant enough to tell the current that you are friends with the ex, or is it justified to hold your tongue because you’re over it anyway, its in the past so why let it affect your future? Then comes the question of are you actually over it..If yes, then why is it worth hiding the new friend? You said it wouldn’t make any difference because it didn’t matter to you. If no, then you’d hide it because of how it looks, right? So what would you do? You’d have to ask yourself whether you are really over it. Could you still be without this person in your life? Would you still be without this person in your life? What are your reasons? But then what are the right ones? We all have moral boundaries, but what if yours don’t match your current other half? You want to be friends with the ex, but theyre not so sure you should..or can. If you’ve been lucky enough to find a current someone who you have that rare connection with; then your moral boundaries probably do match. If not, then you should thank god for their patience, because you might need it.